Obsessive narcissism is an addiction to Narcissistic Supply, the narcissist's drug of decision. It is, in this way, not amazing that other addictive and neglectful practices - workaholism, alcoholism, drug abuse, obsessive betting, obligatory shopping, or careless driving - piggyback on this essential reliance. The narcissist - like different sorts of addicts - gets delight from these endeavors. Be that as it may, they likewise manage and improve his bombastic dreams as "one of a kind", "prevalent", "entitled", and "picked". They put him over the laws and weights of the everyday and far from the mortifying and calming requests of reality. They render him the focal point of consideration - additionally put him in "impressive segregation" from the madding and second rate swarm
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Such necessary and wild interests give a mental exoskeleton. They are a substitute to quotidian presence. They manage the cost of the narcissist with a plan, with timetables, objectives, and false accomplishments. The narcissist - the thrill seeker - feels that he is in control, ready, energized, and essential. He doesn't see his condition as reliance. The narcissist solidly trusts that he is responsible for his addiction, that he can stop freely and without prior warning.
The narcissist denies his desires inspired by a paranoid fear of "losing face" and subverting the faultless, impeccable, flawless, and supreme picture he anticipates. At the point when caught in the act, the narcissist disparages, justifies, or intellectualizes his addictive and foolhardy practices - changing over them into a basic piece of his gaudy and phenomenal False Self.
Accordingly, a drug mishandling narcissist may claim to direct research for the advantage of humankind - or that his substance abuse brings about upgraded innovativeness and efficiency. The reliance of a few narcissists turns into a lifestyle: occupied corporate administrators, race auto drivers, or expert speculators ring a bell.
The narcissist's addictive practices take his psyche off his innate constraints, inescapable disappointments, difficult and tremendously dreaded dismissals, and the Affectedness Crevice - the void between the picture he anticipates (the False Self) and the harmful truth. They assuage his uneasiness and resolve the pressure between his impossible desires and swelled mental self portrait - and his disproportionate accomplishments, position, status, acknowledgement, knowledge, riches, and constitution.
In this way, there is no reason for treating the reliance and rashness of the narcissist without first treating the basic identity issue. The narcissist's addictions serve profoundly instilled enthusiastic necessities. They intermesh flawlessly with the neurotic structure of his disordered identity, with his character deficiencies, and primitive barrier instruments.
Systems, for example, "12 steps" may demonstrate more effectual in treating the narcissist's pretentiousness, unbending nature, feeling of privilege, exploitativeness, and absence of compassion. This is on the grounds that - instead of conventional treatment modalities - the accentuation is on handling the narcissist's mental cosmetics, as opposed to on conduct change.
The narcissist's staggering need to feel supreme and prevalent can be co-picked in the remedial procedure. Conquering an addictive conduct can be - honestly - introduced by the advisor as an uncommon and amazing accomplishment, deserving of the narcissist's special guts.
Narcissists fall for these straightforward pitches shockingly regularly. Be that as it may, this approach can reverse discharge. Ought to the narcissist backslide - a practically certain event - he will feel embarrassed to concede his unsteadiness, requirement for enthusiastic sustenance, and ineptitude. He is prone to stay away from treatment by and large and persuade himself that now, having succeeded once to dispose of his addiction, he is independent and omniscient.